The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

Amanda Palmer

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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
As artists, and as humans: if your fear is scarcity, the solution isn't necessarily abundance. To quote Brené Brown again:

Abundance and scarcity are two sides of the same coin. The opposite of "never enough" isn't abundance or "more than you could ever imagine."
Which is to say, the opposite of "never enough" is simply:
Enough.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
I'm pretty comfortable with myself. I don't shave my armpits or legs very often (though sometimes I will, just to feel my legs slide around on fresh sheets like slippery eels; it's delightful), and I've learned to accept that people sometimes stare. I shave my eyebrows and paint them back on.
That started as a temporary solution after shaving my face for a Marlene Dietrich look-alike contest that Brian and I attended shortly after forming the band. I lost the contest. I kept the eyebrows – I found, to my delight, that it had the unintended side effect of causing people to look me in the eye. When you have creatively painted eyebrows, people will assume you're approachable and affable, and talk to you. It's like having a funny mustache.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
So we threw up our hands and paid for everything ourselves: our web designers, our forum, our emailing list costs. The label asked for access to the mailing list, but I said no. I didn't trust them with my fans' email addresses. They were more than addresses; they were relationships.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
Tightening the net is not the same thing as expanding it. If you spread your net too far, too fast, it stretches too thin and it breaks; or it stretches too wide to be able to catch anything.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
It tightens when two people meet in line at one of my shows, fall in love, and come to a singing line after a concert three years later, asking me to Sharpie a swelling, pregnant belly.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
However, the label thought that we could somehow be megalaunched into the echelon of indie bands that were blowing up and selling tons of records out of the gate around that time: The Hives, The Shins, The Vines, The Strokes. We couldn't: we were too cult-y, our name wasn't short enough, and we didn't actually feel hip or destined for hipness.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
Neil didn't dance. He wasn't much of a drinker. He didn't like hanging out in loud bars unless he had a book.
These things worried me.
But I was infatuated with his accent.
Say it again! I'd plead. Say tomato!
ToMAHto, he would deadpan, as if not enjoying this game at all.
I would squeal with glee. Say it again!
ToMAHto.
Shivers. It also worked with "schedule" and "banana", and my very favorite: "wastepaperbasket." One night I asked him to say it fifteen times. It didn't get old.
Late in bed that same night, when I wasn't expecting it, her surprised me.
ToMAHto. He whispered into my ear. SHEdule.
I half opened my eyes and whimpered with pleasure. And then, sounding very pleased with himself, he murmured:
BaNAHna.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
Other bands pissed off clubs because they would trash the dressing room and steal liquor from the stockroom. We pissed off clubs because the half-naked marching band outside the venue would elicit noise complaints, or because someone would leave a glittery cage of trained mynah birds in the hallway, thus blocking the bar-backs' path to the ice machine.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
The politician Tip O'Neill once said something along these lines:
If you want to make someone your real friend, ask them for a favor.
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Аноним15 февраля 2016 г.
When things were particularly bad and she was going through boy trouble or something, I'd text,
Everything's going to be okay. Everything exists.
One day, while I was on tour in Europe, I got a text from Casey saying,
Everything is gone.
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