Цитаты из книги Brave, Not Perfect

When we relinquish the punishing need for perfection - or, rather, let go of the fear of not being perfect - we find freedom, joy, and all the other good stuff we want in life. It's time to stop giving up before we try. Because when we do give up on anything that is challenging or doesn't come to us naturally, we become trapped in a state of discontent and inertia that's soul crushing. We stay in the relationship that brings us pain, in the social circle that brings us down, in the career that makes us miserable. We let our good ideas wither and die on the vine; or, worse, we painfully watch others succeed at something we knew we should have pursued. Being afraid to try something new, to boldly ask for what we want, to make mistakes, and, yes, maybe even to look a little foolish leads to a lot of wasted brilliance, swallowed ambitions, and regret.

The need to be perfect holds us back in so many ways. We don't speak up for ourselves, as we know deep down we should, becuase we don't want to be seen as puchy, bitchy, or just straight-up unlikable. When we do speak up, we agonize and overthink how to express ourselves, trying to hit just the right note of assertiveness without seeming too "bossy" or aggressive. We obsesively analyze, consider, discuss, and weigh every angle before making a decision, no matter how small. And if we do, heaven forbid, make a mistake, we feel as though our world is falling apart.