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deviantales3 августа 2020 г.Мы всегда предполагали, что у самых умных аналитические навыки развиты лучше, чем у всех остальных. Однако с эволюционной точки зрения самый умный тот, кто превосходит окружение в социальных навыках.
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Наше самосознание — «сердце и интуиция» — на самом деле печется о соответствии нормам группы ради социальной гармонии. «Я» работает на общество и заставляет приспосабливаться к нему.
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ruslnigmatullin2 мая 2020 г.If you would like to be selfish, you should do it in a very intelligent way. The stupid way to be selfish is the way we always have worked, seeking happiness for ourselves alone and in the process becoming more and more miserable. The intelligent way to be selfish is to work for the welfare of others
1194- ruslnigmatullin2 мая 2020 г.
Of course, we all know that praise is a good thing, as long as it isn’t too unconditional, but until very recently, we had no idea that praise taps into the same reinforcement system in the brain that enables cheese to help rats learn to solve mazes. And positive social regard is a renewable resource. Rather than having less of something after using it, when we let others know we value them, both parties have more.
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Subjects would then lie in the scanner while reading these letters written about them by several of the people they care about most. Our intuitive theories suggest there is something radically different about the kind of pleasure that comes from people saying nice things about us and the kind of pleasure that comes from eating a scoop of our favorite ice cream. The former is intangible, both literally and figuratively, while the latter floods our senses. Although there are surely differences between physical and verbal sweets, this fMRI study suggested that the brain’s reward system seems to treat these experiences more similarly than we might expect. Being the object of such touching statements activates the ventral striatum in the same way that the other basic rewards in life do.
1122 - ruslnigmatullin2 мая 2020 г.
Our Faustian evolutionary bargain allows us as humans to develop slowly outside the womb, to adapt to specific cultures and environments, and to grow the most encephalized brains on the planet. But it requires us to pay for it with the possibility of pain, real pain, every time we connect with another human being who has the power to leave us or withhold love. Evolution made its bet that suffering was an acceptable price to pay for all the rewards of being human.
1122 - ruslnigmatullin2 мая 2020 г.
1989 Finnish study assessed the level of victimization among eight-year-olds from a sample of more than 5,000 students. Those who had been bullied at age eight were more than six times as likely to have actually taken their own lives by the age of twenty-five. Suicide-related thoughts are actually quite similar among those who have been victims of bullying and those who have been victims of chronic physical pain, further supporting the link between these two kinds of pain.
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From a young age, we teach children to say, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me.” But this isn’t true. Bullying hurts so much not because one individual is rejecting us but because we tend to believe that the bully speaks for others—that if we are being singled out by the bully, then we are probably unliked and unwanted by most. Otherwise, why would all those others watch the bully tease us rather than stepping in to help support us? Absence of support is taken as a sign of mass rejection.
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Kip Williams found that even when he told people they were just playing against a computer and that the computer was preset to reject them, people still experienced social pain. Making quick visual assessments and feeling pain in response to social exclusion were both so critical to survival in our evolutionary past that these effects cannot be easily mitigated.
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Nathan DeWall, together with Naomi Eisenberger and other social rejection researchers, conducted a series of studies to test out the idea that over-thecounter painkillers would reduce social pain, not just physical pain. In the first study, they looked at two groups of people. Half of them took 1,000 milligrams a day of acetaminophen (that is, Tylenol), and half of them took equivalently sized placebo pills with no active substances in them. Both groups took their pills every day for three weeks. Each night, the participants answered questions by e-mail regarding the amount of social pain they had felt that day. By the ninth day of the study, the Tylenol group was reporting feeling less social pain than the placebo group. Moreover, between the ninth day and the twenty-first day, the difference between the two groups kept widening. Neither group knew what they were ingesting. Yet taking the painkiller we reach for to make a headache go away seems to help make our feelings of heartache go away too.
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