The Coaching Habit

Один из законов изменений:

Как только вы пробуете что-то новое, обязательно с какой-нибудь стороны возникнет сопротивление.

Указывай меньше и спрашивай больше.

Твой совет не так хорош,

Как ты считаешь.

Предположим, что, пока вы спите, произойдет чудо. Когда вы проснетесь завтра утром, как вы поймете, что жизнь внезапно стала лучше?

To have transformative conversations, you need to make people feel safe.

Foggy-fiers are conversational traps that – much like fog – can hide what’s really going on. The good news is that the sooner you learn to spot them, the sooner you can blow them away.

By asking questions, you’ll notice something important start to shift: instead of being ruled by your Advice Monster, you’ll begin to adopt a coaching habit – which means you’re more interested in helping to identify challenges than coming up with perfect answers.

People will do anything to try and avoid having a vulnerable conversation.

By starting to ask great questions, you nurture the most important quality you can have as a leader: curiosity. By taking the time to listen to the people around you, you give them the space to tune into their own inner wisdom, and build a sense of autonomy and purpose.

Once we get a reply to our first question, we need to quash the urge to jump in with advice, and instead ask follow-ups like "What else?” This simple question is so powerful because it forces people to dig deeper, and reveal any underlying challenges they might have missed.

Beginning a conversation by asking “What’s on your mind?” allows the other person to answer in any way they choose.