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Those who have had their primal sense of autonomy severely impaired by an environment which stressed chronic self-defense to maintain their autonomy are all but incapable of surrender.Their sense of autonomy is so fragile, held together by pain and suspicion, that the idea of surrender brings forth intense feelings of shame, anxiety and guilt. Thus, they are incapable of giving
love or receiving it. Their habitual defensive posture, learned when they were too vulnerable for differentiated defense, makes it next to impossible for them to drop their guard long enough for love to come in or for love to come out. Ironically, individuals such as these are often those who talk the most about love yet treat their relationships as an endless chain-reaction of, negotiations centering around the issue of control.